If I Could
Originally written April 11, 2016
If I could…
I would look into your eyes and remind you:
You are God’s masterpiece.
Nothing about you is broken.
You deserve to be loved,
and with a kind of love that values every part of who you are
—idiosyncrasies and all.
I would also make sure you knew:
When it’s right, you’ll know it’s right.
All the pieces will fall into place together
—all the way down to the very air you breathe.
You won’t have to force it,
manipulate it, try to fix it,
or ever wonder if you’re making the right decision.
You will know that this is the person
who you’re supposed to be with.
He will become your best friend
and someone you can’t imagine living without.
When you succeed, he’s the first person
you will want to share your excitement with.
When there’s sadness in your life,
he’s the first one you will want to reach out to for comfort.
Your tears will be his tears.
Your joy will be his very own.
He will never try to make you feel like less of a person
so he can feel like he is more.
Because of his relationship with God,
this special person in your life will respect you—
body, mind, and soul—
and he will challenge you to become a better person,
because that’s what loves does.
Don’t ever mistake somebody’s earthly desire for you
as a Godly relationship.
Strong and secure friendships take time to build…
and they will always withstand time and testing.
If he is worth your time, you are worth his wait.
I would also encourage you not to settle
—even if that means remaining alone.
Nothing is lonelier in this life than being unequally yoked
or with someone God has not ordained for your life.
You deserve better than that.
Make sure you get it.
Just because you can relate to someone’s past or pain
doesn’t mean they were designed to be part of your future.
When you’re deciding on accepting someone into your
most personal space—whether that be emotional, mental,
spiritual or physical—make sure that person has earned your trust.
Authenticity is an invaluable trait
and the only way you’ll ever feel safe in sharing your trust.
Don’t rush ahead of God
or underestimate the power of His divine plan.
He sees you.
He knows you.
He will never abandon you.
He only wants what’s best for you.
Your best interest is always in the forefront of His mind.
You never have to question that.
His love is pure.
You don’t ever have to be somebody you’re not.
You are enough—Just. As. You. Are.
If doubts creep in and emotions blur your reasoning,
refer back to God and find your value and worthiness in Him.
Don’t ever allow another person to define you.
They are human beings and flawed, too.
Only God’s definition of you matters.
I wish, more than life itself,
that I could take away your confusion and frustration
and minimize the heartache and anxiety that the unknown holds.
I would take it away if I could.
But, since I can’t,
know that I have placed you in the very capable hands
of the One I know who can.
Trust Him always.
Rest in Him faithfully and frequently.
And know that your life matters.
You are never alone.
“’For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV
“…and lo, I am with you alway, even unto the end of the world.” Matthew 28:20 KJV